The Work of Love

The Work of Love is a 4-hour workshop for creating
Peace to the 5th power:
Patient, Passionate, Powerful, Personal and Practical Peace.

These are the questions participants have brought to this workshop, perhaps they are your questions:
  • Why does catastrophe produce collaboration?
  • How do we help others to unlock the cycle of vicious thinking?
  • How, when and why will we hit the violence “bottom?”
  • Who else thinks like I do about ending violence?
  • How do we apply the lessons that we learn about violence?
  • How do I participate in a culture of peace?
  • Why are we so unwilling to look at ourselves?
  • What is the discovery process that leads to peace?
  • How do we use active listening?
  • How do we overcome the belief that we live in a violent world?
  • What can we do to reduce the fear of racial attacks?
  • What is the appropriate level of response to violence?
  • What are the tools for working together as individuals and as a community?
  • How can I deal with the triggers that lead me to violent thoughts, words or actions?
  • How can we deal with polarization?

Today I believe it may be possible for ordinary people to realize that they, with others, have within themselves the ability to build a culture of peace, and in fact see that that is the only way that it will be built, from the inside out. My purpose is to assist whoever is willing to move from despair to hope.

Once it is begun, the Work of Love acquires an exponential acceleration which I call Peace to the 5th Power, containing these five attributes:
  • Patience because Love does not count the days or years until peace is achieved as a measurable event. Love knows that moving out of despair begins to interrupt the cycle of violent behaviors immediately, not in the future. Love knows that the desire for peace is here and now within the hearts of all people, and that that desire can be drawn forth. 
  • Passion because Love triggers the joy of dedicating one’s thoughts, speech and actions to the peace mission and purpose. Simply being on the path to that goal is meaningful in itself. 
  • Power because when Love changes our inner world, our external behavior shifts to match, and we become a creative source of systemic change. 
  • Personal depth because Love changes our perceptions, emotions and deliberate actions so that they are no longer driven by external personalities or situations. Love will lead us to adapt, to grow, and it is in this ability that we find our most human qualities. 
  • Practical solutions because Love makes us better listeners, which builds empathy, creating the space for the collaborative problem-solving necessary for the stable security which is peace.

To host this workshop, contact David via the contact form in the right sidebar or by phone at 541-359-3598.

David Hazen is the author of "Love Always Wins: Hope for Healing the Epidemic of Violence,” his story of 25 years of active healing from the conflicts of an adverse childhood and 24 years of addiction to drugs and alcohol. He learned whole-system design-planning from an associate of Buckminster Fuller, is the recipient of two PeaceBuilder Awards, and is working to build a City of Peace in Eugene, Oregon.

Workshop Outline

The purpose of the work of love is to drastically reduce the violence within ourselves and restore our experience of connection and belonging.
Process: We will immerse ourselves in the Affirmations of Personal and Global Peace by each of  us sharing under conditions of confidentiality our responses to questions of personal response-ability. The need for safe space, mentors and mutual support. 
Admit the problem
Trust the process
Give up the struggle
Start with yourself
Repair the damage
Find your response-ability
Q&A, Planning for Continuation 

Affirmations of Personal and Global Peace 
These non-theistic, progressively more challenging affirmations are a further evolution of the internationally embraced Twelve Steps of AA which were written in 1939 and were based on the six steps of the Oxford Group. They were further adapted in 2002 by Mark Umbreit as the Twelve Steps of Personal Peacemaking, and revised again by David M. Hazen in 2016 as follows:

1. I admit that conflict and violence in the external world, within myself and among my relationships consumes too much of my energy, creates stress, and leads to unhappiness. 

2. I believe that integration of my rational, language-based thought and intuitive, wordless, emotional capabilities can bring me strength and peace. 

3. I make a commitment to let go of expectations and control of other people and situations in order to understand and connect more completely with trust in the energy of the present moment. 

 4. I review my past contributions to conflict and violence in my personal relationships, my community, my country and the world. I list the unintended negative effects that I have had upon other people. 

5. I share with certain individuals and groups who are also seeking peace the detailed sequence of my feelings, thoughts, words and behavior that contributed to conflict and to emotional or physical violence. 

6. I detach from perfectionism and reframe mistakes as opportunities for learning. I develop a healthy self-respect and forgiveness of myself and others. 

7. I absorb wisdom and guidance from mentors and other peace-seekers in confronting my lack of responsibility for my feelings, thoughts, words and behavior. 

8. I make a list of all persons I have harmed and become willing to make direct amends to all such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. 

9. I continue to be mindful of my actions and their effect on others, and when I have offended another, whether intentionally or not, promptly admit it and offer an amends. 

10. In a spirit of humility and compassion for myself and all others, I utilize self-care techniques to gain serenity, courage and self-confidence. I remember to be grateful for my small part in the evolution of a culture of peace.

11. I find ways to creatively collaborate with those who may have offended me. In difficult and uncomfortable conversations, I adjust my language and time spent listening to meet others with empathy, respect and curiosity. 

12. I am a patient and passionate instrument of peace and healing among all those who cross my path in my life's journey. I share my renewed sense of security, freedom and energy in my life with others.

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